Today’s weather reminds me of the day I picked my girls up from the supplemental school for homeschoolers, and Ainsley was sad as tears filled her eyes. As she buckled her seatbelt, I asked her what was wrong. She didn’t want to talk about it so I asked her to look out the window as I pulled out of the parking lot. I asked her to tell me what she sees.
Me: “What else?”
Me: “Yes, and what do you think is on the other side of those thick dark clouds?”
Ainsley: “The sun.”
Me: “That’s right. The sun and beautiful blue sky! We love sunny days, right?”
Me: “Just because we can’t see it right now doesn’t mean that the sun and blue skies aren’t still there. If we hopped in a plane and went high enough, the grey clouds would be under our feet while the sun would be shining on our faces. The sun and blue skies are always there and never leave just like the happiness that is within us never leaves. Your sadness is just like those grey clouds and your tears like the rain. Now, all we need to do is to blow your clouds away so your happiness will shine, or we can jump in a plane and fly through them… so we all can see and enjoy your lovely and beautiful blue skies and bright sunshine!”
Ainsley giggled, smiled and said: “Really??”
Me: “Absolutely! Even when you’re sad, your happiness is always inside of you just like the sun is always on the other side of those clouds. We just have to blow the storm away or find a way through it is all. I will help you through your sadness so that you feel happy again.”
Ainsley stared out the window smiling at the clouds as I continued to drive home. Her happiness started to return and we had an amazing rest of the day. She never told me what made her sad, but that day created such a difference in her life as she still refers back to that conversation. At 6 years of age, she started to learn that she controls her happiness and that whenever she is sad, she can reach inside for a beautiful ray of sunshine anytime she chooses, and if she can’t get her plane to start, I can.
This analogy was inspired by Pema Chodron. I am grateful for all her teachings because not only has she guided me to become a better person, she has also given me the tools to become a better mother, wife, sister, daughter and friend.
Much Love! Priscilla